Five Ways to Connect to a Passed Love One
Whether your loss was recent or long ago, the desire to speak to someone who has passed—like a beloved grandparent—is deeply natural. In moments of quiet, we often wonder: Can they still hear us? Is there a way to feel close again?
I remember when my grandmother passed in 2001, I yearned for some sign that she was still near. For a long time, I couldn’t feel that connection. Then one day, as I was watching television, the channel suddenly changed—without me touching anything. What made it extraordinary was the show that appeared: I Love Lucy—a show my grandmother and I used to watch together. In that moment, I felt her presence so clearly.
Years later, when another grandmother passed, I felt more in tune with energy, and I knew that I would feel her when it was time. I started to see white feathers show up in the most random places. One time, I asked her to show me one on my walk, and a small gray and white hatchling bird feather slowly fell in front of me. It felt magical and brought me so much comfort.
While we can’t bring them back in the physical sense, there are meaningful ways to connect, heal, and continue the bond in spirit. If you’ve been wondering how to communicate with a loved one who has passed away, here are five ways to try forming that connection.
1. Write a Letter to Them
Writing is a sacred bridge between worlds. Pour your heart into a letter—share memories, ask questions, or simply update them on your life. You can:
Keep it in a journal
Read it aloud
Place it near a photo or keepsake
Burn it as a symbolic release
Start with:
“Dear Grandpa, I’ve been thinking of you. I miss your funny stories and your famous chili…”
2. Create a Sacred Space
Designate a quiet corner in your home with a candle, a photo, or a meaningful object. In this space, you can:
Sit in silence and invite their presence
Speak to them out loud or in your heart
Meditate and ask for guidance
Creating a sacred space signals your intention and opens a peaceful channel for connection.
3. Invite Them in a Dream
Many people feel visited by loved ones in dreams. Before sleep, gently ask:
“Grandma, if you can, please visit me in a dream tonight.”
Keep a notebook nearby. Even a subtle feeling or symbol in a dream can offer comfort or insight.
4. Use Visualization or Meditation
Guided visualizations can help you connect to loved ones in a spiritual dimension. Imagine walking together in a peaceful place, and notice what feelings or messages arise.
Meet your loved one in a "garden of memory." Create your garden of memory from the heart through your imagination and visit this peaceful place when you want to connect to a passed love one.
5. Speak to Them in Your Heart and ask for a symbol
Even without tools or rituals, simply speak to your loved one inwardly. Ask for support or guidance. Then pause, breathe, and trust that their love is still with you. You might be surprised by a warm memory, an intuitive message, or a sense of calm that follows. Use your connection to ask your loved one to send a sign that shows they are there with you, such as a certain animal, feather, coin, etc. Release the need to look for the sign, and it will appear when you don’t expect it.
Grief is Love in Motion
Love does not end when someone passes. It changes form. Whether through dreams, meditation, or a heartfelt whisper, your relationship can continue in beautiful new ways.
If you're seeking more spiritual tools for emotional healing or want to learn how to stay centered during grief, I offer 1:1 sessions that gently support this inner work.
💗 You’re Not Alone
Your loved one may no longer walk beside you—but they still walk with you.
Sending love,
Sharon